Sunday, July 19, 2009
Piss on the Seat
My husband ended up going to San Francisco with his friends until Monday. For a guy who says he is working hard and has so much to do at work, I don't understand missing Friday and most of Monday at work, especially after moving last week. His idea of working hard is entirely different than mine is.
In any case, the kids and I have had a wonderful weekend. The end of July has a lot of special birthdays for me. Two of my sisters and two of my best friends have birthdays. So I spent Friday celebrating with one of my oldest friends. And Saturday we spent the entire day and evening with my ex-husband's wife, L, and all of our kids. Both were just wonderful days.
L is also Lebanese, and her nephew was there with her too. He is only 12 but I kept thinking he is already such a man. He never needed to be reprimanded. He was always polite and grateful. He helped with the other 4 young kids without ever being asked. He works in their donut store several days a week. I think this is a big part of it. I worked from a young age as well. I had mixed feelings about whether I would want this for my children, but after spending the day with him, I think it is the right away to go. My husband's family has such a problem with entitlement. This boy had none of that. I told him at the end of the day how proud I am of him. I've known him since he was a baby and he has grown up to be just an amazing man. And yes, he still sorta looks like a boy, but I don't think I could describe him that way.
There were a lot of things I thought about yesterday. We went to both a water park and a pool that they go to. Funny enough, I have not been to a public pool for a long time. We belong to that Country Club and go there or to our gym, which is also very nice. I had forgotten how real bodies look, with real boobs and everything else. I'm used to see women with "perfect" bodies, in cover ups because they don't think their bodies are perfect enough. At this pool, I think I was the only one with a cover up, and it didn't stay on long. People were in the water and splashing around. They were having fun. No one cared what anyone else was wearing or about saying the right thing to the right person. They were just enjoying themselves.
Several of my friends have wondered about how I could belong to a Country Club. They say it just doesn't seem like me. But yesterday I realized that I have just gotten used to it all. And it did seem ridiculous to me.
The only downside to the public pool was the bathroom. I had not seen piss on the toilet seat for a very long time. The bathrooms at the club are always clean. But I thought, I'd rather wipe the piss off the seat myself than have my husband and his family piss all over me for the rest of my life.