Tuesday, April 14, 2009


Taxes are due tomorrow and I am still missing both a W-2 and a 1099 for my husband. I think he has the W-2 somewhere, but his father hasn’t bothered to get us the 1099 for us. It’s another instance where I wonder if he has it and is just messing with us. I know he came from the Desert and did HIS taxes two months ago, so I can’t imagine what the hold-up is.

The thing is, yes, on paper, my husband gets family money. But in reality, we don’t see any of it. My husband is W-2’d from his father’s business and that money goes into a bank account that pays for a life insurance policy for his father at the end of every year.

The other is also related to his estate and we do not see it. (At least not now, and knowing how his dad is, I don’t know that we ever will.)

So I can’t say that I am entirely thrilled with getting taxed on more money that we really don’t have right now for some future benefit that I may never see.

The other thing is that I am a very meticulous and timely person. Before marrying my husband, I usually had my taxes done in early February. Now, here it is April 14th and I still don’t have two of the forms I need, yet alone my taxes filed or any idea of how those taxes will get filed.

Yesterday I read up on how to file an extension and found out that even to do that; I need to know how much taxes we have paid and how much we will owe. So I still need those forms and I may as well just do the taxes!!!

My GOD!! Does this seem like insanity to anyone else but me?

For two months, I have been asking my husband where the forms are. His response is to get mad at me.

This morning was probably not the best timing since I noticed he was already pissed off about something else, but he always seems to be pissed off about something so I asked him again anyway. “DO YOU HAVE THOSE FORMS?!!?”

He blew up at me.

I told him I would just file separately and he stormed out of the house. “That’s so SULA!”

A few minutes later he texted me to apologize.

“I’m sorry that I yelled at you.
I’m having a hard time.
No excuse.
I will get the W-2 at 2:30.”


1 comment:

  1. I too feel the pain of inlaws who dont respect me and who drink and are co-dependent and passive aggressive. Too bad my husband is not on my side.. it shows how sick it all really is...I am in alnon and hoping to find peace also..god bless