I am feeling very grateful today. This has been a hard couple of years but I feel like I am finally moving in the right direction.
I looked through some of the pictures on our family blog from years back. What struck me most was all the happiness my children, my friends and my family have brought me. I was struck by these lines from the verse on Love in The Prophet by Khalil Gibran. This entire poem was read at our wedding.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
Even though my marriage was not a "success", I do feel that I did this, and the love I received back was ten-fold from most of the people in my life.
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Thursday, February 11, 2010
Friday, November 6, 2009
Newest Demand from my Father-in-law
So, apparently my husband still does not have the money he keeps saying he has earned, and he put us into another very tough spot. This morning, he arrived half-way-through our son's parent-teacher conference, after missing our daughter's entirely last week. (I should have reminded him, he said.)
Then he said that he would need to get money from his dad and he hated to even bring it up but his dad wanted me to send him an email thanking him and his wife for their financial help over the last year.
Date: November 6, 2009 4:50:04 AM PST
J,
I will arrange for you to get the $6500.00 balance from D as soon as K and I receive some communication from Sula acknowledging her appreciation for our financial support for her and your family for the last year or so.
As per our old deal I expect you to visit with me on each payday that you receive a check for over $1,000.00. Paying back the short-term loans is an important part of our relationship. For you; being honest and keeping your word, for me; being able to respect you as a competent adult man.
In the future I will only help you with loans as part of a comprehensive financial management plan, which will mean that both of you need to be 100% open with all of your budget plans and all financial history. A lot of people that you and I both know ask for and appreciate my financial advice. I know that your family would be better off financially today if you would have been willing to be more honest and open to my advice.
I will be less co-dependent going forward because I love you.
Dad
So, like any mother who needs to take care of her kids, I ate shit.
My reply:
Dear J and K,
Thank you for your financial help over the last year or so. We all appreciate it!
God bless you both!
Inside I was both barfing and laughing. I hope someday, they will eat their words. I hope someday they will realize that their inadequate parenting grew a son who is an alcoholic-addict, who has repeatedly put his family in a horrible spot.
I think they should be thanking me for holding this family together all these years. I think they should kiss my ass for the job I do with both of these kids. I think they should both be apologizing profusely for the abuse they have inflicted on me, my children and my husband for years - and for the bullshit I have put up with from their son.
Then he said that he would need to get money from his dad and he hated to even bring it up but his dad wanted me to send him an email thanking him and his wife for their financial help over the last year.
Date: November 6, 2009 4:50:04 AM PST
J,
I will arrange for you to get the $6500.00 balance from D as soon as K and I receive some communication from Sula acknowledging her appreciation for our financial support for her and your family for the last year or so.
As per our old deal I expect you to visit with me on each payday that you receive a check for over $1,000.00. Paying back the short-term loans is an important part of our relationship. For you; being honest and keeping your word, for me; being able to respect you as a competent adult man.
In the future I will only help you with loans as part of a comprehensive financial management plan, which will mean that both of you need to be 100% open with all of your budget plans and all financial history. A lot of people that you and I both know ask for and appreciate my financial advice. I know that your family would be better off financially today if you would have been willing to be more honest and open to my advice.
I will be less co-dependent going forward because I love you.
Dad
So, like any mother who needs to take care of her kids, I ate shit.
My reply:
Dear J and K,
Thank you for your financial help over the last year or so. We all appreciate it!
God bless you both!
Inside I was both barfing and laughing. I hope someday, they will eat their words. I hope someday they will realize that their inadequate parenting grew a son who is an alcoholic-addict, who has repeatedly put his family in a horrible spot.
I think they should be thanking me for holding this family together all these years. I think they should kiss my ass for the job I do with both of these kids. I think they should both be apologizing profusely for the abuse they have inflicted on me, my children and my husband for years - and for the bullshit I have put up with from their son.
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